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To bless or not to bless

 

by Marcel A Duclos

 

 

     
 

Resting by a lone walnut tree on the edge of the open field, the village elder pauses to ponder the usefulness of an old belief. He smiles as he talks to himself. He is rehearsing before speaking to the questioners he sees approaching far off in the distance.

“To bless or not to bless,” he hears himself question.

Eyes shut, hands on his lap, he follows his thoughts.

“That is a dilemma of enormous proportions and of far reaching implications. Some would say that it reaches far beyond the grave while filling all of the empty spaces between us on this side of the burial plot. When are we called to bless, how shall we indeed bless?”

The wisdom on the wings of the wind whispers, “Always and without exception; even when wronged.”

The village healer follows the strands of his meditation, saddened that this lesson takes so long to learn.

“I am privileged to witness the unfolding of sacred stories in the hallowed time and space of the visits. More often than not, the visitor reveals events of emotional slaughter, of abandonment, of physical torture, of life sucking episodes that require the best that hate can provide in order to reclaim self-love grounded in felt justice.”

Interpreted in the tradition he knows best, hate refers to the preference of oneself over the encroaching other and to the strong opposition to the obvious injustice in unmistakable terms.

Alerted by the dog that serves as the scout for the advancing party, the old man sighs aloud, “This is not something to be attempted lightly. It is dangerous and defining.”

The villagers want to know about blessing and they are nearing through the walnut grove.

Almost in prayer, the solitary figure rises to utter softly,
“What does confronting injustice have to do with the existential mandate to bless? Will most advance that such a mandate arises out of the idealist’s naïve wish to avoid conflict at all cost? Will at least one be in agreement with the mandate as the only way to disentangle ourselves from the tentacles intent on dragging us into the cloud of black ink that would fuel us to further the story of injustice?”

The villagers who hope to be confirmed in their own views are bearing down on him.

This is what finds he finds within to say to the visitors.

“None of us are without sin, blameless, authorless of a wrong. When in the personal sphere, we are the objects of another’s intention to harm us, even destroy us, might we not seek to find the full measure of responsibility we shoulder for the injustice even down to the tiniest grain? Thereby awaken to the creative power of avowed guilt, and able to define and hold to what defines us and sets limits, might we not find the equal measure of forgiveness and set it in the scale and behold our shared humanity?”

When the one who was first in the shade of the walnut tree rises to signal the limits of his understanding, a child voices the soulful knowledge of the ancestors buried nearby: “Not to bless everything and everyone is to curse.”

 
     
 

 

     
 

Marcel A. Duclos, M. Th., M. Ed., Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Human Services, and Alcohol/Drug Counseling, maintains a private practice in Concord, NH. Marcel and co-writer / clinician Connie Robillard give trauma healing workshops. Their book, Common Threads – Stories Of Life After Trauma, was published at the end of last year. See website.

 
     

 

     
   
     

 

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